We met at a meeting for an on-campus mental health organization and ran into each other at a coffee shop a few days later. “The spring of my senior year of college, I met my first girlfriend after coming out as queer to my close friends the summer before. I knew that every kiss with any boy before that was nothing compared to what I felt in that moment.” -Danielle, 35 I stumbled through asking her to hang out. I got butterflies so hard my stomach hurt.
When my best friend went into the stall, the other girl pushed me against the wall and kissed me. “I was in the bathroom in ninth grade with my best friend and our mutual close friend. I was still super nervous and struggled to get out of my head a bit, but having good communication helped, and it was a really great experience.” - Rachael, 32 I was in the bathroom in ninth grade. It took me a while to feel comfortable moving past making out with women, but one night, after an event I hosted, a woman I’d been seeing decided to stay over and we had sex. I’d already been teaching sex education for a few years and had begun cohosting sex parties with a colleague, so my run-of-the-mill nerves about having sex with a woman for the first time were multiplied by people often thinking I was more experienced than I actually was. “I spent my 20s in a long-term monogamous relationship with a man, and I hadn’t dated much before that, so when we decided to open up our relationship, I was excited to explore my interest in other genders. It sometimes makes me feel like I’m missing out on some big part of being a queer woman, but ultimately, I’m really happy with my girlfriend and we’re just as gay as anyone else, so I try not to worry about it.” -Julia, 21 People thought I was more experienced than I was. It’s a strange experience being a queer woman who’s never slept with another cis woman because a lot of times, lesbian sex is framed solely around the presence of two vaginas. It wound up going pretty well because we’re together now. It was sort of like I was actively reframing things through a queer lens while we were hooking up. The first time I really hooked up with a girl, I was hooking up with a trans woman that I had hooked up with before she came out. It was just a quick smooch in a hallway of a dorm building, but it felt like some kind of rite of passage as a queer woman. I got cast in a play where I’d have to kiss a girl onstage, and I was unhappy with the thought that this would be my first kiss with a girl, so a friend of mine offered to kiss me first. “I had come out as bi about a year before but still hadn’t kissed a girl. That was the first of many times that we did that, and it began an over-a-year-long romance between the two of us.” -Jessie, 42 It felt like some kind of rite of passage. I came over, and we shyly and nervously explored each other's bodies. I sent my kids to school, and when her baby fell asleep for his daily nap, she called me. We decided that we didn't want the first time for both of us to be with our husbands we wanted to concentrate on each other, so we told them we were going to get together and that they weren't invited. She also hadn't ever been with another woman. While the woman and I kissed that night, we didn't take it any further-I think that we were both too nervous. In our early 30s my husband and I decided to open our marriage to some sexual exploration and went on a date with a couple. “Though I had flirted with women through college and my 20s, I was in a long-term monogamous relationship and never acted on my interest or desire to be with women. Krista, 39 We nervously explored each other’s bodies. I'm exclusively dating women and will always credit H for help[ing me come to terms with my sexuality. We parted ways amicably and we're still good friends to this day. The sex was incredibly satisfying-something I'd never really said before-and we ended up in a monogamous relationship for almost two years. After a few great dates, we ended up at my apartment and kissed for the first time, which was explosive. Long story short, I was fully honest with her about my lack of same-sex experience and she wanted to take it slow. We had a few flirty phone calls and text messages before meeting up. We had a few drinks and exchanged numbers, and I was eager to see her again.
I felt comfortable immediately and hit it off with a woman, H, who was easy to talk to, attractive, and witty. After a particularly bad breakup with a cis man, I found myself at a lesbian bar in my town. "I'd never had sex with a woman before but knew it was something I wanted to try. Here are their stories: We waited to have sex. We asked women of different sexual orientations to recount their first lesbian sex experiences and encounters.
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